Hello dudesndivorce.com dudes!
Often we contemplate our situation and ask ourselves “Why? How did this happen to me? How did my life come to this?” Sure, most will ask themselves this question if divorce was thrust upon them by their spouse. But not all. For some of us our situation may have been more a case of “you could see the writing on the wall” so you initiated the divorce yourself without waiting for her. Or you yourself decided it was the only option.
Regardless, it is natural to at some point cause yourself to reflect back and ask yourself this type of question. And, to be honest, I can’t give you an answer to this question. The answer has far too many variables.
But I do recommend this one thing. Many people get hung up beating themselves over the head over things they had ABSOLUTELY NO control over.
For Example: I have a friend who divorced. One of the reasons was due to his wife’s repeated irresponsible and erratic behavior due to a mental condition she suffered from that required she maintain a regimen of daily prescription medication, which she often failed to do. This precipitated a domino effect through many aspects of their lives that he was forced to deal with continually. Including destroying their finances and eventually their marriage. For sometime my friend, regardless of the knowledge of his wife’s condition, would repeatedly ask “Why? How could she do this? How could this happen to me?” It took him awhile to come to grips with the fact that he was only responsible for his own behavior and, maybe she was not entirely responsible for her own. He learned to let it go. To his own benefit. That frustration and anger that was building up was released. He consciously decided to no longer focus on it. And, thus to release himself from any guilt associated with something he actually did NOT do.
This may not be your case, but I hope you understand and can apply the concept to your own.
See ya later,
Russ
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