I’m sure at one time or another you’ve heard about the Polar Bear Club – normally it’s comprised of a group of individuals who clear ice from a section of pond, lake or other body of water in the dead of winter then strip down to their bathing suits and make a running jump right into the middle of the frigid waters. Personally this has always seemed like good grounds for commitment into a mental health facility (I’m teasing) and I can promise you the only way I’d jump into those waters is if a real polar bear was chasing me!
But you know the other day I was thinking about my history in relationships and I realized that I probably qualify for membership in a Polar Bear Club as well. But rather than the kind where you get wet this Polar Bear Club would be one in which you jump into relationships with “cold” women. I don’t mean “Frigid” necessarily . . . but rather just women who are pretty emotionally unavailable for one reason or another. Maybe they’ve been hurt a lot in the past; or just tend to be more reserved emotionally . . . whatever the reason. The end result is the same – a relationship in which your emotional needs are largely unmet.
What’s odd about this pattern of mine was that I’d get out of one relationship like that and next thing you’d know I’d be jumping right into another one! Kinda like one of those Polar Bear dudes who just manage to get warmed up and then BAM they’re running for another plunge!
Recently I’ve been dating a lady who’s quite a bit more giving of herself and more attentive to my needs than the general norm for me. I kinda like it!! And I was thinking about how I kinda like it when I realized that (for once) I’d jumped into a heated pool rather than an iced over lake!! Amazing how much nicer that is! ~:?) Heck I might even decide to float around and enjoy the experience for once!
Guess I’m bringing this up just to share a bit about how this has worked for me – I know patterns in relationships can be pretty common and also pretty difficult to recognize at the time. Maybe it would have been better for me if I’d took a minute to stop and think before taking the “Plunge” all those times in the past.
Hope this was of some help; until next time . . . be well!
Bill
Thank you!