Kind of an odd title really, if you think about it; after all what profit could there be in writing an article with such a title for a site designed for Divorced “Dudes”? Wouldn’t . . . shouldn’t they already know these purported truths? I think the answer is both “yes” and “no”. I agree that we divorced men already know many of these “truths” I’m about to present but they tend to only know these about themselves personally. I think many divorced men feel pretty alone, isolated, solitary. Many don’t realize that the issues they deal with day in and day out are pretty commonly experienced by divorced men everywhere.
In the following series I’d like to open up for discussion a handful of commonly held myths about divorced men and contrast these to what I feel is a closer representation of the truth. In part I’m doing this to hopefully educate a few members of the general population who happen to come across this on the web. But my central purpose is to get divorced men thinking about some of the assumptions we make about other divorced men. I think it is empowering for the individual to realize he’s not so alone after all. And that is really one of the greatest purposes of this site – to get men talking, thinking and sharing with each other about the impact of divorce on their life. Seems the best way to get that ball rolling is to encourage us to start realizing we have a lot in common with each other.
Unfortunately our society tends to typecast divorced men into either playboys or losers. Either we’re driving a Porche and dating supermodels or we’re driving a Pacer and can’t GET a date. But the reality is, of course, that the vast majority of divorced men fall between these two extremes. We aren’t oversexed playboys, we aren’t all “deadbeat dads” and we all have some baggage that we’re still trying to deal with.
I’ll start the series in earnest on Thursday and continue with an issue each post until we get through. As always I invite comments, feedback and suggestions. Feel free to leave those below or write us at divorced-dudes@dudesndivorce.com
Until then – Be Well!
Bill
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