Hello dudesndivorce.com readers!
Yesterday as I was leaving the pharmacy there was ahead of me a young couple. 
I just happened to notice that as they walked along he, ever so casually, reached out and took hold of the ladies hand. Not earth shattering news to say the least. It’s safe to say none of you read about this in the headlines anywhere this morning, nor was their pictures splayed across the tabloids or the television news today. So what’s the big deal? Why should I, or any of you for that matter, care?
We should care because complacency kills relationships. Many of us are grateful when we can find that one lady that we truly feel at ease with, that makes us feel like we can be ourselves, that realization of true acceptance. That is not just a good thing but a GREAT thing!
However so many of us have a tendency to slide into a rut regarding our appreciation of this or our significant other. The “Aww, she’s always been there. She’ll always be there. It can wait for some other time. I’m so busy now” Or “I’m sorry, I meant to, I just forget.” attitudes and excuses begin to prevail.
NEWSFLASH: She WILL NOT ALWAYS be there! These moments WILL NOT ALWAYS LAST!
Read my post form April 6, 2009 “Don’t Waste It”. You only have so much time to enjoy a good relationship. Do not allow yourself to become complacent. One of the things you can do to fight this encroaching habit or attitude is through doing “the little things” like this man did, he reached out and held her hand. So many of us get caught up in the idea of a “big night out” or a “weekend getaway”, and while those things are great, they usually don’t happen that often or enough. Complacency happens on a day-to-day basis. “Where the rubber meets the road” type stuff.
The best way to fight it is to be aware of it in yourself. But you can’t stop there-you must move on it, do something, however small, to break out of the pattern of complacency.
You can do it, it’s not that hard. We’ve given you some ideas here at dudesndivorce.com and there are plenty of other resources for you to tap if you have a hard time coming up with some ideas to get you started.
See ya later,
Russ
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