Good morning dudesndivorce.com readers! (Or whenever you may read this, lol) How was your weekend? Here we are at the start of a new week and here I am again ready to go with a BIG cup of coffee!
You know I never used to drink much coffee, but now it seems I drink it everyday! Sometimes twice (in the evening too!). What’s up with that?
Well, onto today’s topic……
I think we’ve all seen those orange colored safety cones as we drive along, haven’t we? They are often out there to guide us around traffic or construction workers, to protect the workers from the hazards of traffic, so they may work in relative safety and security. Have you ever noticed when a somebody is allowed to do their job without any worries of unnecessary danger or interference that they often “just let loose” and really excel? Whatever the job, they may get self motivated or get their creative juices flowing or just feel free to do their job without any hassle from anyone else and what they do in that safe environment will astound you!
safety cones
Well what if we applied that same idea to communication in our relationships? What if we created a safety zone of communication around our wife (girlfriend, fiancee, significant other)? You may say, “Heck, she already talks all the time now! What more do you want?” .
Yes, generally speaking women are more verbal than men, however that is not what I am discussing here. The matter here is whether you are listening and attending to her without ANY prejudgements. Letting her say what she thinks and feels without any worries of any ramifications from you. No guilt, no pity parties, no revenge, no insults, no condemnation. Just total acceptance.
Don’t get me wrong, I do not necessarily mean by total acceptance acquiesance. I simply mean that you accept her thoughts and ideas as hers, her feelings as hers. And that she has the right to express those thoughts and feelings. You still have the right to disagree with her. But your goal is to create an environment of free expression for her with you.
Gentleman, this one thing in your communication can have so many positive affects on your relationship. It can increase her trust and faith in you and thus your intimacy. Yes, at all levels, mentally, emotionally, and physically. And that is just the start. Things like this have ripple affects throughout your whole relationship. Rarely is anything isolated.
See ya later,
Russ
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