Hello dudesndivorce.com readers!
Just a few musings as I review the historic events of this week.
This week we look at the anniversaries of a couple of major efforts towards independence. June 4th was the 20th anniversary of the Chinese government crackdown on the protesters in Tiananmen square in Beijing. And June 6th is the anniversary of Operation Overlord, otherwise known as D-Day, the Allies invasion of Nazi occupied Europe. June 5th is sort of sandwiched between these two very significant dates in history.
It causes me to think, and I know this applies to myself, how many men view the option of divorce itself as a means or method to obtain independence? Or some form of it?
So many times we hear that marriage can be like a prison or a prison sentence. Usually this is said in humor or perhaps even in an attempt to get pity. But I can relate to this idea in some manner. And in the concept that divorce “can” give some independence.
As I’ve stated before, my marriage had problems, serious ones. I tried discussing these issues with my then wife to work them out. Over and over again! I not only felt she not want to work on the problems but also she did not want to even recognize them. Thus they were never going to get solved! As one person in a relationship, I could only do so much. It simply takes two to solve all the problems.
So, in essence, I felt I was in a marriage or relationship prison. The only other person who could work with me to get out of it (to work out or solve our problems) refused to do so. Thus the prison analogy.
Divorce is not the best option, certainly. That’s one reason why I hung on so long, but I felt in my situation, it was the only real life, real world option.
Just wanted to share some thoughts. Have a great weekend, see ya later!
Russ
