Hello dudesndivorce.com compatriots!
Well here it is Friday again and I once again sit here musing. Is it because it’s Friday or because my blood sugar is low? It can’t be because I’m just staring at my navel. I haven’t seen that in years!
But I digress…
Have you ever noticed many relationships seem to devolve into some sort of competition? It becomes some sort of whacked out reality game show, “Man Vs. Wife” or “Boyfriend Vs. Girlfriend”. How does that happen? Why does that happen?
Maybe it’s just me but it seems that the “goal” of a relationship isn’t to “win”, to achieve some sort of personal victory over someone else but rather to get to know some one else, to share life with each other (the good and the bad), and to let them know you. Not to “win” every argument or have your way in each and every issue. Or to keep some sort of mental (or emotional) scoreboard tallying up points for each other’s “wins” in hopes of coming up with a “final” score and “winning”.
I’ll be absolutely honest, I simply do not understand this thinking or approach to relationships. What benefit has anyone ever gotten through this method? Has it EVER succeeded? I suppose we should define succeed here! By succeed I mean creating and or building and maintaining a mutually satisfying relationship for both parties.
I have noticed that those men that practice the “gotta win” philosophy in relationships usually don’t have very good ones. They are usually very shallow and often short and are typified by frequent arguments. Wow! That sounds just fantastic…
As I have often heard. “How’s that working out for ya?”
Russ
