Hello dudesndivorce.com readers!
As we approach Thanksgiving we may notice a tradition here in the USA of the President issuing an annual traditional Presidential Pardon to a turkey for the Thanksgiving Holiday.
This just makes me think, have we done something similar? Have we taken the time to issue our own Presidential Pardon? First, what is a pardon exactly? Merriam Webster defines a pardon as; the excusing of an offense without exacting a penalty or a release from the legal penalties of an offense or an official warrant of remission of penalty. Essentially it is an act of forgiveness. An act, that is a verb, that means you DO something. Not just think about it, not just think about doing something. But actually DO something, in this case forgive, in this case pardon.
What do we have to pardon? Do we have to pardon a turkey like the President? Perhaps not, but each of us as divorced (or potentially divorced) men have been through a painful period in our lives. We may feel we have been wronged by our ex, by the courts, by lawyers, by family members or friends.
Carrying this “wrong” in our hearts is like carrying a weight with you everywhere everyday. It wears you down and exhausts you, it drains your energy away from the things you could be doing, things you would rather be doing or perhaps should be doing. And, perhaps most of all, it does no harm to the person(s) to whom you hold this “wrong” against, it only harms you!
Issue a pardon, forgive them of this slight, this wrong. Let it go. Free yourself of this bitterness and anger.
And move on to bigger and better things.
Then you can truly give thanks for all your many blessings.
Happy Thanksgiving!
Russ
