Bill’s Introduction
Hi and thanks for taking the time to read this short introduction. I guess the place to start is by laying out a few basic facts about who I am and where I come from. I’m in my late forties and I’ve been divorced twice. First marriage happened when I was in my early twenties; it lasted almost ten years and from it I have my three wonderful kids. After that marriage ended I was able to win custody of my children and spent the next eight years as a single parent. That was a tough row to hoe and causes me to have a lot of respect for guys who decide to go that route. I remarried in my late 30’s and tried to make a large, blended family work for almost six years before that marriage basically imploded. Not a great track record but I’ve learned a lot about relationships, marriage and myself as I’ve gone through it all. I’d be the last to claim that you can learn from a book or a website how to have a good marriage or how to put your life back together after a divorce; this blog certainly isn’t an attempt to offer professional advice to anyone on those subjects. My experiences have given me a pretty broad perspective on the issues involved and qualify me to listen and share with other men and that IS what Russ and I have set out to do here. Finally I want to make it clear that I don’t advocate divorce as the “best” solution to a troubled relationship; I believe, strongly, in marriage and in it’s importance. My beliefs as a Christian, my education and my own life experiences provide both confirmation and affirmation of those convictions.
Congratulations! I knew it was you before I read the “author’s” name…..you are an amazing writer, Bill, I hear the wisdom of your insights in these intro words. So proud to see the end product of years of planning and growth!! Kudos!! This is a GREAT website! Prayers and Thoughts continue for your success!! LRL
Thank you Lisa as with everything it is still a work in progress. I hope that you are happy and well.
Bill
Bill and Russ,you are doing a great thing here. I’m sorry for the roads you’ve traveled down. The one thing that got me where I am now is learning from ALL of my relationships in life. When I was a boy I always told myself I wasn’t going to be like my parents and I’m not. In my first marriage I was a little too self centered and I was definitely married to the wrong woman. I learned to be a lot more in touch with my loved ones’ feelings and I think I am doing great so far (18 years and counting) My second marriage is to my best friend. We truly do complete each other. I am proof that if you learn from failed relationships and apply what you learn you don’t have to be alone. This blog you have going here seems to have a lot of useful information and I will direct anyone I know having problems here. After a divorce the last thing anyone needs is a lot of gender bashing. Conversely if you truly want to stay alone there is nothing wrong with that…Just remember that IS your choice so keep the gender bashing minimalized, learn, and move along through this wonderful gift God has given all of us called LIFE! I didn’t know Russ. Chin up brother! I have a pretty good idea who bill is. CMS
Thanks Chris! Sure do like to hear the positive feedback. I think you are exactly right with your statements about learning from past relationships . . . where your focus is . . . there you are! ~:?)
Thank you also for spreading the word about us, much appreciated.
Be Well!
Bill
Hi Russ and Bill. This is a great site. I would like to link my site to it and would appreciate it if you would do the same. I recently started a blog for single Dad’s learning to cook for the first time. Recipes are designed as entire meals, so timing issues are easy to figure out. It’s new, so any suggestions are always appreciated. Check it out at http://www.dinneratdads.com. Thanks!
Mr. Bill
You are truly an amazing man. Ur insight shows me that what i feel is true. The magic lives with in us all, and all will find away. I dont just hear what u say i feel what u say Mr. Bill. The words show what ive felt my whole life. Thank you and know im truly sorry for all of my past im not that kid anymore Thank You…
Saw this link, decided to check it out. What a great thing you have here. Bill, I am sure that you wished there was something like for you “back in the day”. While I know that this is geared towards men, I can certainly see this benefiting single parents period. I will be passing the word on this website.